• Transcending the Human Paradox

    “Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the gods.” – Albert Einstein

    It’s my perception that the Self is cosmic and exists in multiple overlapping realities. Along with our physical human reality, we also have access to the spiritual realities of the Higher Self and the Ego—or Shadow Self—that exist in parallel.

    Transcending the Human Paradox comes first with the understanding of these realities and the way they interact, affect, and influence one another. Secondly, it comes from understanding the Self and its dual nature, accepting the contrast within that nature, and learning how to walk in its balance in order to have an optimal experience of the life your soul has chosen for you.

    The beauty and mystery of the paradox lies first within free will, the greatest gift the Universe—or God as I personally refer to it—has bestowed upon us.

    First thing’s first. What is a paradox? Merriam-Webster defines it as “one (such as a person, situation, or action) having seemingly contradictory qualities or phases”.

    This definition directly applies to the human being in and of its essence and nature.

    Our physical bodies are tangible masses of matter, but the driving force operating them is intangible and abstract. That force manifests within each of us as a living, breathing mixture and paradox of senses, traits, perceptions, and emotions.

    There are two basic concepts to transcending the paradox that you are: Acceptance and Understanding. The master key to optimizing your life and experience as a human being is internalizing both of these concepts. You can do that by using the intrinsic keys you possess to each. Acceptance is achieved through Understanding. Balance is unlocked through Cognizance, and Discernment.

    Concepts:

    Acceptance: Accept the world as it is, nature as it is, humanity as it is, yourself as you are. Accept the paradox and duality of everything. Accept the nuances of your personality and character and accept the contrast in those nuances as well as the culminations in their merges. Accept the individual within the individual. Finally, accept that the manifestations of the Higher Self and of the Ego reflect and become tangible in your physical reality.

    In order to transcend duality, you must first accept it.

    Life is a mirror. You’ve heard of the Hermetic principle As Within so Without. Your world is a prism and projection of light. The source of that light is within, where the Shadow Self and the Higher Self also reside.

    The Shadow Self is rooted in lack, fear, emotional immaturity, cowardice, resentment, jealousy, despair, chaos, and doubt. The Higher Self is rooted in abundance, love, kindness, emotional maturity, gratitude, fortitude, peace, hope, and faith.

    The simplest and most basic form of explanation of this internal contrast is the broader phenomenon, manifestation, and expression of the dichotomy of Good and Evil. I always found the story about the two wolves within each of us that the Cherokee grandfather told his grandson very insightful. The reality of the form of Self that you are allowing to dominate within you is the reality that is mirrored to you in the physical plane.

    Balance: Balance inner personality traits. Balance life priorities. Balance emotions. Balance yourself. Balance individuality with connections. Stay grounded. Shift with grace.

    There are sixteen personality types identified by the Myers-Briggs Indicator (MBTI), but even the creators of the model admit there is no one personality type that an individual fits perfectly into. Each of us is a unique combination of personality characteristics and traits with certain innate preferences.

    A good example of overlapping personality types and the human attempt to organize them into categories and define them can be found in the concepts of Blue Collar and White Collar work and their theoretical and practical application. 

    I recently came across a blog article that focuses on the behavioral differences between the two and points out the general directness and hands-on style of blue-collar workers and the formality and diplomacy typical for white-collar workers. In conclusion, the author notes that individual depth and uniqueness go beyond categorization, grouping, titles, and labels.

    Our characters and personalities don’t simply reflect in our education, vocations, careers, interests, and what we do for a living.

    Who we are is mirrored in how we carry ourselves—our relationship with our own selves— and in how we treat others. It’s reflected in our approach to life, to our connections, and to our work as well as in the way that approach impacts our environment, others, and our own lives.

    My personal journey, which I talk about in The Path to Self-Realization”, has led me in various directions through life and is a testimony to the depth of my own character, personality, and individual traits, tendencies, and preferences.

    If you want to go deeper, check out Richard Ford’s Blue Collar, White Collar, No Collar: Stories of Work. It’s a literary work of greater scale that dives deep into both concepts and provides a widely comprehensive look into each of them while also emphasizing the overall fallacy in the notion that the entirety of one’s individuality can be contained into a single category.

    Keys:

    Understanding: Understand the power you hold inside at the center of your being. Understand the reactions you have to yourself and to the outside world.

    It’s important to know your basic science and math. Remember that energy is always in motion and factor in the results of multiplication and division of positive and negative numbers. Be accountable and responsible for yourself. Heed the philosophical maxim Know Thyself, and recognize that others can only see you through their own lense and from their own point of view and understanding.

    Cognizance: Take notice and be mindful of your surroundings and of others. Recognize what is occurring and what it is mirroring. Recognize the softness, gentleness, and humility in the voice of faith, truth, and love and the raucous, crassness, and arrogance of doubt, deception, and resentment.

    Discernment: Listen with your heart and with your soul. Pay attention to the source of the voice and to what is being communicated. Always keep in mind the colorful world inside and outside of you, the changeability and fluidity of words, and the permanence and solidity of actions. 

    Using these keys correctly depends on your knowledge and application of basic grammar concepts in everyday life. While the importance of grammar applies in a very literal way to the literary world itself, it metaphorically shapes and portrays life and existence in their entirety.

    Be aware, for example, of comas, spelling typos, and the places of apostrophes. Remember that homophones like born, borne, and bourn/e are a great example of the confusion and misunderstanding that result from words without correctness in grammar and clarity in context and intent.

    Final Thoughts:

    My wish for you is that you approach life from your very center.

    As you do, hold the steering wheel with true intent. Focus and be steadfast in your reactions. Keep in mind deep understanding, growth, and wisdom come from experience. If necessary, your soul will allow you to get dirty to achieve positive results and to help you transcend from any imagined collars to boundlessness.

    The path and journey are magnificent. They veer, transform, and shift as you do.

    Be fierce in your approach and graceful in your shifts.

    To Your Success!

  • The Difference Is in the Details

    While I have my own unique character traits, like many others, I have an inquiring mind. Today I have a few questions.

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    Do you ever wonder what your role is in the grand scheme of things?

    Do you ever wonder where the world you live in is headed or lose your own direction?

    Do you ever misplace your muse and inspiration to keep going?

    Do you ever stop to look and listen to the Universe when she talks to you?

    Are you at peace with yourself, with the cards you’ve been dealt, and with the time you’re living in?

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    If you’re finding yourself in need of some inspiration right now, keep reading. Feel free to come back to this post whenever you notice doubts trying to weasel themselves in where they don’t belong.

    The following poem was written by myself, and the first two quotes below it are also mine. Further down, you’ll find a compilation of quotes by others that I have always found uplifting.

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    Let’s Talk

     

    You are my fellow human and muse;

    I—the part of you that’s most often misused.

     

    I can only be a reflection

    Of your perspective and your perception;

     

    You see, my expressions, my motives, and my intentions

    Require your undivided attention;

     

    So that we can avoid misimpressions and misinterpretations

    Since our circumstances and words have a few different dimensions.

     

    We want to respond but often react;

    Leaving the soul shaken and the ego intact.

     

    Please,

    Don’t act like you know me

    Or worse, like you own me;

    A glimpse is never enough to unfold me.

     

    Detelina Stamatova. All Rights Reserved.

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    “Your weakness is your strength.” Detelina Stamatova

    “God is love. He forgives the forgiving.” Detelina Stamatova

     

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    One is either free or one is not. The concept of freedom is an absolute. After all one cannot be moderately dead or moderately loved or moderately free. It must always remain a matter of either or.” Georgiana Cavendish, Duchess of Devonshire (Keira Knightley). The Duchess. 2008

    The world moves for love; it kneels before it in awe.” Edward Walker (William Hurt). The Village. 2004

    Poets are soldiers that liberate words from the steadfast possession of definition.” Eli Khamarov. The Shadow Zone

    A poet looks at the world the way a man looks at a woman.” Wallace Stevens. Opus Posthumous. 1957

    A man is a little thing when he works by and for himself; but when he gives voice to the rules of love and justice, he is godlike.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

    A poem begins with a lump in the throat.” Robert Frost

    Poetry is what gets lost in translation.” Robert Frost

    Poetry is an echo, asking a shadow to dance.” Carl Sandburg

    Poetry is when an emotion has found its thought, and the thought has found words.” Robert Frost

    Poetry is a man’s rebellion against being what he is.” James Branch Cabell

    Poetry is just the evidence of life. If your life is burning well, poetry is just the ash.” Leonard Cohen

    Poetry is thoughts that breathe and words that burn.” Thomas Gray

    I don’t create poetry, I create myself, for me my poems are a way to me. My self-confidence comes from the fact that I have discovered my own dimensions. It does not behoove me to make myself smaller than I am.” Edith Södegran

    You will find poetry nowhere unless you bring some of it with you.” Joseph Joubert

    Science is for those who learn; poetry for those who know.” Joseph Roux, Meditations of a Parish Priest

    I grew up in this town, my poetry was born between the hill and the river, it took its voice from the rain, and like timber, it stepped itself in the forests.” Pablo Neruda

    She said, ‘I’m afraid of falling…’ and he whispered, ‘I have wings.’” Harlem Shake

    There is always some madness in love. But there is also some reason in madness.” Nietzsche

    Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, and attempts what is above its strength.” Thomas A. Kempis

    Love is a portion of the soul itself, and it is of the same nature as the celestial breathing of the atmosphere of paradise.” Victor Hugo

    The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” Rumi

    Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” Lao Tzu

    I love you and because I love you I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies.” Pietro Aretino

    Love takes off the masks we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” James Arthur Baldwin

    You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.” Anonymous

    Today I caught myself smiling for no reason… then I realized I was thinking about you.” Anonymous

    The risk it takes to remain tight inside the bud is more painful than the risk it takes to blossom.” Anais Nin

    We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anais Nin

    People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.” Anonymous

    In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.” Shing Xiong

    Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.” Oscar Wilde

    The truth is always pure and never simple.” Oscar Wilde

    You can bend it and twist it. You can misuse it and abuse it. But even God cannot change the truth.” Michael Levi

    All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.” Galileo Galilei

     

    Finally, please remember that you are the only one responsible for your own choices and their consequences.

    To You and Your Success!

  • Symbolism—Use and Evolution

    Symbolism is a part of our daily life. Logos, emojis, our clothes, jewelry, favorite colors, pets, homes, and so on, are all symbols. They represent who we are, our moods, and our values. They can also epitomize people and events that are important to us.

    It’s safe to say that humanity’s entire existence is based on symbols and their use and interpretation. Knowledge was passed on through symbols like ancient cave drawings and hieroglyphs.

    Our dreams—a deep fascination of mine—are wholly made of symbols. The primary and only way our consciousness communicates with us and expresses itself is through the use of symbolism. The reality we experience when we are asleep and dreaming is purely symbolic and metaphoric.

    What is Symbolism?

    One of the ways Merriam-Webster defines symbolism is “the art or practice of using symbols especially by investing things with a symbolic meaning or by expressing the invisible or intangible by means of visible or sensuous representations: such as.”

    In writing, symbolism is the use of objects, words, people, or ideas to convey something different from their literal meaning.

    The Evolution of Symbolism

    Before the evolution of language, people communicated through symbols—gestures and sounds.

    Today, symbols are reflected in language, and like language, symbolism has also evolved and continues to expand.

    Even though certain symbols have become absolute—a dove stands for peace and love, red can spell out danger or passion, an owl means wisdom and intelligence, etc.—the interpretation of symbols in general is relative and can be very personal.

    Symbolism in Writing

    In literature, writers use symbolism to enhance the pictures they paint with their words and provide the reader with a richer, deeper visual and sensory experience. It’s the best way to accomplish what every writer strives for—showing rather than telling, connecting themes, adding imagery, and hinting at other meanings.

    As a writer, you can immensely magnify and intensify your writing, as well as achieve that deep connection with the reader through the use of original and authentic symbols (or by building on existing symbols that are widely accepted) and the right balance of small-scale and large-scale symbolism.

    Types of Symbolism

    There are two types of symbolism—small-scale symbolism and large-scale symbolism.

    Small-Scale Symbolism

    Small-scale symbolism is the effective use of figurative language—metaphors, hyperboles, similes, and so on. The successful use of figures of speech can help you enhance your writing and provide the reader with deeper insight into who a character is or emphasize the importance of a scene or dialogue.

    The weather in a scene, for example, can symbolize the nature of events taking place and the emotions of the characters. Along the same lines, what someone is wearing or their hairstyle can hint at certain character traits of theirs and their lifestyle.

    Take care, though, not to overuse symbolism. As with everything else in life, moderation is essential and allows for key events, characters, and moments to stand out and make the desired impression.

    As I mentioned above, balance is crucial.

    Large-Scale Symbolism

    Large-scale symbolism is the use of dominant, recurring symbols in a story that help connect and deepen the overall theme, along with any secondary ones.

    I recently re-read Nathaniel Hawthorne’s short story “The Minister’s Black Veil.” The black veil in the story is an ideal example of large-scale symbolism, and as a deep thinker with a curious mind and someone who is always more interested in what dwells beneath the surface, I couldn’t help but be amazed at the relevance of the theme today.

    Hawthorne uses the veil as a means to represent secret sin and hypocrisy and to hint at shame, hiding one’s true nature, and a lack of self-awareness and understanding of one’s own consciousness.

    The Sunday Reverend Hooper appears with a black veil over his face is a day like no other. The minister’s veil reveals his inner battle, and the fact that he never takes it off again divulges the depth of his own convictions and alludes to his ever-increasing awareness of the duality that exists within himself and within us all.

    Interestingly enough, the idea of the black veil in the story can be strikingly pertinent today.

    As we are wrapping up the year 2020, we are finding ourselves in a very new and unfamiliar world that is very different from the one we were living in barely a year ago.

    In this new world, face coverings are becoming the norm, and while a large portion of society believes they are intended to represent protection from the coronavirus, the topic remains controversial and is being interpreted in various ways during this sensitive and emotional transition period—a period leading to an unknown outcome for humanity.

    In 2020, almost 200 years after the original publication of “The Minister’s Black Veil” in 1832, I find that its theme is reinforced in a very subtle yet obvious way, and its meaning becomes even deeper.

    To me, Hawthorne’s masterful use of symbolism is remarkable, and his genius transcends his time.

    Final Thoughts

    We all have something unique to offer the world. Writers do it through their words.

    If you want to make a lasting, unforgettable impression with your writing, the skillful use of powerful symbolism is an infallible way for you to achieve just that.

    To Your Success!

  • Point of View Explained

    Point of view (POV) is the voice in which a story is narrated. If you are an avid reader, you most likely have a preference, and if you’re a writer or an author, you probably lean toward writing and narrating from a particular POV.

    For an author, the POV in which they tell a story becomes the essence of their writing style and makes them memorable and recognizable.

    Because we all have different perspectives or points of view, the same story may be narrated and perceived differently depending upon the POV in which it’s told. I’ve referred loosely to Self-Editing for Fiction Writers by Renni Browne and Dave King in the writing of this article explaining the differences between the types of POV.

    There are four types of POV:

    • first person
    • second person
    • third person limited (or close)
    • third person omniscient

    And there are two types of narrators:

    • reliable—second and third person omniscient
    • unreliable—first person and third person limited

    The POV in which a story is presented is vital and can make or break it.

    FIRST PERSON POV (I/WE)

    The first person POV is where the narrator tells the story from the perspective of one character in the book.

     

    Another week over—and I am so many days nearer health, and spring! I have now heard all my neighbour’s history, at different sittings, as the housekeeper could spare time from more important occupations. I’ll continue it in her own words, only a little condensed. She is, on the whole, a very fair narrator, and I don’t think I could improve her style.

    In the evening, she said, the evening of my visit to the Heights, I knew, as well as if I saw him, that Mr. Heathcliff was about the place; and I shunned going out, because I still carried his letter in my pocket, and didn’t want to be threatened or teased any more. I had made up my mind not to give it till my master went somewhere, as I could not guess how its receipt would affect Catherine. The consequence was, that it did not reach her before the lapse of three days. The fourth was Sunday, and I brought it into her room after the family were gone to church.

     

    The paragraphs quoted above are the opening of a chapter from Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë. Brontë is an author who is a master of the first person POV, and since Wuthering Heights is easily my all-time favorite book—it captivated me beyond belief when I first read it as a child and is the one book I keep coming back to and re-reading at least once a year—I couldn’t overlook it as the perfect example here.

    In Wuthering Heights, Brontë goes even deeper and artfully and skillfully uses two narrators to deliver the brooding story of Heathcliff and Catherine to the reader—Lockwood, Heathcliff’s tenant and the primary narrator, and Ellen “Nelly” Dean, Cathy and Heathcliff’s caregiver and a servant to the Earnshaws and then the Lintons.

    Nelly narrates to Lockwood and is the secondary narrator, even though, essentially, hers is the story the book delivers. The POV jumps from Lockwood to Nelly, but the author presents pretty much the entire story in Nelly’s perspective.

    While the first person POV is a popular one, it’s also challenging and quite risky. It can be limiting at times since there’s only one perspective and one version of events the reader is exposed to.

    Consistency is key in this type of writing since the reader is only ever able to enter the head of the person narrating and remains there the entire time. The narrating character can’t possibly know other characters’ exact feelings and thoughts, so as the author, you can’t discuss what another character might be thinking or feeling—you can only ever show how the narrator perceives the actions and emotions of others.

    In this POV, events and their outcomes are only revealed to the reader as they become clear to the narrator.

    If done effectively, writing in the first person POV keeps the reader engulfed in the story and on their toes. Everything becomes personal, and they end up consumed by the story and extremely involved in the plot.

    In a masterpiece like Wuthering Heights, Emily Brontë creates this exact type of dramatic intimacy and deep understanding between the reader and the characters, and the reader remains locked in the action from beginning to end.

    At the same time, though, keep in mind that unless you have a captivating main character who can grab and hold the reader’s attention for the duration of the book, your reader may get distracted and frustrated, start skipping through the pages, or even give up on the book altogether; we don’t want to take any chances of that happening.

    Above, I also mentioned reliable and unreliable narrators.

    A narrator who tells a story from the first person POV is always unreliable. This is because the entire story is told through their eyes, and events and other characters are seen through their perspective only. There is no objectivity present anywhere, and we don’t know how the story would have been told from any of the other characters’ standpoint.

    SECOND PERSON POV (YOU/YOU)

    While the narrator is considered reliable in second person POV, you—the reader—can often rebel against who the author is forcing you to be and feel isolated as you are being told how to act and what to do, think, and feel.

    Being singled out like this can even anger you.

    But here is where the irony comes in.

    If a story can give rise to such emotions and reactions on your part as the reader, this usually clearly indicates that it’s been written very well, and the desired effect has been achieved.

    This was the case with me and the short story “The Cheater’s Guide to Love” by Junot Díaz , featured in The New Yorker in 2012.

    Even though I was annoyed with the main character (the narrator) and couldn’t relate to him or give him my empathy and full understanding, I felt an intimate closeness with him and was able to follow along easily, regardless of the fact a lot of the non-English words used in the story were not familiar to me.

    The author’s ability to incorporate non-English words in the text in a way that doesn’t confuse the reader reveals an even higher level of skill. Instead of alienating the reader by using words that may not be universally known, the author makes them feel connected and close. The chain of events is so skillfully presented and written, and the cultural aspects are incorporated so well in the story line, that the reader becomes involved right away.

    As I mentioned, with this POV, the author is essentially forcing emotions and perspectives on the reader. Narrating in this POV is rightfully considered to be one of the most difficult writing styles to pull off. It is also the most limiting. But if done right, your reader becomes submerged and immersed in the story from page one and remains the focal point of the action until the end.

    And as far as trustworthiness and reliability are concerned, generally a narrator in this POV can hardly be considered unreliable, even though this has become a controversial subject in the field of literature.

    The verdict that the narrator is reliable in this point of view, however, still remains. Even though you are being told who you are and what you feel, the events that occur can only be taken at face value. There is no bias when it comes to your own inner emotions and the things happening to you. You—the reader—are the center of everything, after all.

    THIRD PERSON LIMITED POV (HE/SHE/THEY)

    In his book series A Song of Ice and Fire, George R. R. Martin narrates in third person limited POV. He tells the story from the POV of various characters. They all sort of take turns narrating, and the person telling the story is easily distinguished by chapters, so the chances of possibly confusing the reader are eliminated.

    George R. R. Martin undoubtedly chose the right POV for his bewitching book series. His is a story so rich in events and characters that it seems impossible at first that everyone’s private journey can be captured in detail and deep intimacy can be achieved.

    The author, however, shows remarkable skill, and the reader gets the chance to become exceptionally close with each character and spend some time inside everyone’s head. As a result, each character becomes more real and human, and the reader is able to bond with every player in the thrilling and exhausting game of thrones and remains deeply involved in the story from beginning to end.

    Consistency in this POV is also vital. In A Game of Thrones, the first of the book series, When Martin presents a scene from Ned Stark’s perspective, for example, he’s doing it from Ned’s POV and not from anyone else’s. He doesn’t suddenly jump into, say, Jon Snow’s head without warning in the middle of the scene.

    Switching narrators can be done within the same chapter or even scene, but you have to be mindful of clarity, and new authors often struggle with this.

    One solution may be a new paragraph and a hard break between paragraphs, for example. This will prepare the reader for a change, and the transition into someone else’s head won’t be so abrupt and obvious.

    Of course, the narrator is always unreliable in third person limited POV because they are only ever able to present the chain of events from their own standpoint.

    In the magical books of the series A Song of Ice and Fire, because the reader is always in someone’s head, none of the intimacy is lost, and since every character gets a chance to present their standpoint, the reader doesn’t miss any important details, information, or plot twists.

    THIRD PERSON OMNISCIENT POV (HE/SHE/THEY)

    Merriam-Webster Unabridged defines omniscience as “infinite knowledge.” For this reason, many philosophers refer to omniscience as an attribute of a divine being—for example, God.

    This is a valid association because writers and authors are essentially the gods in the stories they write. They create the world in which the events take place, decide who the characters are, how the story unfolds, and how it ends.

    The narrator in third person omniscient POV is all-knowing and reliable. An example of a story told in this POV is another one of my all-time favorites—Les Misérables by Victor Hugo.

    In this POV, every character’s story and private journey is told by an all-seeing narrator.

    Generally, in this POV the reader is not inside anyone’s head at any given point in time, and the characters’ innermost thoughts and emotional reactions are only interpreted and shown—even though in Les Misérables, Hugo exercises some freedom with this concept, and while at the beginning of the story he tells the reader he himself doesn’t know the characters too well, he tends to journey deeper into their heads as the plot thickens and the story progresses.

    The final verdict, however, still remains—the POV of his classic multi-volume story is third person omniscient.

    The advantage with this POV is that the reader does see and know all that happens instead of only being “in the know” of events and details known by and obvious to one particular character.

    Some of the aspects of this writing style may be considered to be negatives or viewed as less advantageous—such as possible distance between the reader and the characters and limitations when it comes to forming intimate bonds between them.

    With a classic and amazingly skilled author like Hugo, however, intimacy and understanding are achieved so craftily and precisely that the reader feels exceptionally close and connected to each character and actively participates in each event and plot point, twist, and turn.

     

    I hope you’ve been able to get a better understanding of POV in writing after reading this article.

    If you have a favorite POV, which one is it?

    Mine is probably the first person, but I have to say as long as the book is written well and grabs my attention, I’m in for the ride.

  • The Apostrophe and Its Uses

  • The Stages of Editing

    This article shines some light on the editorial process and explains the editing stages. While it is written with new and up-and-coming authors and content writers in mind, established authors and writers may also find it useful, so I invite you to read on regardless of your status and experience level. I have tried to summarize what you need to know, especially if you are just starting out in the writing industry.

    I want to be of some assistance to others because I remember how I felt back in 2012, when I was going through the process of self-publishing my first book—a collection of poetic expression—and had no idea where to start or what to look for.

    So, let’s dive in.

    EDITING AND THE STAGES OF THE EDITORIAL PROCESS

    What is editing?

    Simply put, editing is the process of preparing a piece of content for publication and public presentation. It breaks down into four stages.

    What are the four stages of editing?

    • developmental editing (also called structural or substantive editing)
    • line editing (also called stylistic or content editing)
    • copyediting
    • proofreading

    Developmental editing is usually sought after for manuscripts. It looks at the story as a whole and focuses on things like plot, overall structure and setting, introduction and end, and character development. In other words, it makes sure that the story flows smoothly and makes sense. It ensures that the reader can easily follow along.

    Line editing comes after developmental editing and takes a deeper look at specifics. It targets word choice (voice) and phrasing (style), dialogue, consistency, the beginning and ending of each chapter (focusing on hooks and prompts), sentence structure, etc.

    Copyediting is the third stage of editing, and it is similar to proofreading in the sense that the two often get confused but are, in fact, quite different. I currently specialize in both copyediting and proofreading. While copyediting does look for grammatical, spelling, and punctuation errors, it also performs fact checking; ensures that timelines, chapter numbers, and page numbers are accurate and correct; double-checks the consistency of actions; and, where applicable, double-checks the table of contents, bibliography, footnotes, etc. It also looks for repetitions and makes suggestions where the author uses the same words repeatedly (these are called echo words). Often, like in my case, copyediting and proofreading are offered together.

    Proofreading is the fourth and final stage of the editing process. In addition to copyediting, this is my other area of expertise. It takes place when the text is complete and ready for publishing, and it looks for errors that were missed during previous stages. It does not involve changing the structure of the text or rewriting any sentences. Most of the time, however, glaring errors are pointed out during this stage. Proofreading focuses strictly on

    • grammar
    • punctuation
    • typographical errors
    • spelling
    • missed/omitted words
    • double words
    • formatting issues (note: formatting is a different ball game altogether; proofreading only checks for basic formatting and consistency [i.e. paragraph and line indentions, titles, and capitalization])
    • style issues (note: proofreading involves making revisions based on the custom style sheet submitted by the client or the major published style guide selected by the client; proofreading checks for consistency but does not make stylistic changes).

    When looking for an editor, keep in mind the following:

    A professional editor WILL

    • have excellent grammar and punctuation skills (ok, this one is a given)
    • be professional (DUH), effective, and quick in their communication
    • often, but not always, have a website of their own
    • provide you with their resume upon request
    • likely have a portfolio and will provide you with a link upon request (usually, it will be featured on their website, if they have one)
    • likely be a member of at least one professional editorial organization
    • have excellent attention to detail
    • have great time-management skills
    • use established proofreading principles
    • ask you for a sample of your writing
    • determine and explain what type of service is needed and clear up any confusion about the services provided and the type of editing the content calls for
    • refer you to an editor who provides the service you may need if your content has not yet reached the proofreading stage
    • provide a free quote upon receiving a sample
    • quote prices in accordance with industry standards (you may find rate guidelines below)
    • ask you to sign a contract
    • proofread according to your preferences, your custom style sheet, or your selected major style guide
    • complete the job within a reasonable time frame and meet agreed-upon deadlines for completion
    • let you know of any changes in their schedule in advance and work with you to ensure successful and satisfactory completion of the job
    • return the document with tracked changes for you to accept or reject.

    A professional editor WILL NOT

    • be quick to set a final price before receiving a sample of your writing
    • offer prepackaged services
    • quote rates and prices that are significantly lower than the industry standards (note: click here for a breakdown of the different editorial services and their standard rates).

    Keep in mind that each piece of content is absolutely unique. Therefore, pricing and completion deadlines are going to differ. Another thing to always remember is the famous saying: “You get what you pay for.” It may be somewhat of a cliché, but it is definitely true. Trust me!

    STYLE AND STYLE GUIDES

    Something else I mentioned above is style. I also talked about following a particular style guide in your writing. In case you are not very familiar with these terms, let’s clarify what they mean.

    Style is, basically, the writer’s voice and writing style, and a style guide refers to an established set of writing standards and guidelines. It is a particular set of rules to follow when it comes to punctuation, hyphenation, grammar, capitalization, and word usage. There are four major published style guides, and each one of them has its own designated dictionary (you may find their names and uses specified below). A lot of major publishing agencies, educational institutions, and independent authors have a house style (also called custom style) of their own. Using a house style can set authors apart from other authors and make it easy to recognize their voice and their writing.

    The four major published style guides are as follows:

    Remember that, as I mentioned at the beginning of this article, proofreaders make sure that the client’s chosen style of writing is consistent throughout the piece but do not attempt to make any changes or rewrite any sentences.

    Okay!

    While I may have missed some minor details, this article summarizes the key points of editing and the editorial process. I hope it brings some clarification, disperses the clouds of confusion a little bit, and aids in your endeavor to find what you are looking for.

    Happy hunting!

  • The Path to Self-Realization

    Created: August 27, 2020 | Last update: July 22, 2025

    Hello, fellow seekers of knowledge, dreamers, artists, lovers, readers, writers, warriors of peace, enthusiasts of the extraordinary, and humans in general! 

    Self-discovery! Popular term, right?

    You always hear about public figures and celebrities discovering or rediscovering themselves. But what about you?

    The truth is, we are generally expected to know who we are and pick a direction to follow very early in life, but since self-discovery is an ongoing process that goes hand in hand with experience, this can be a very challenging and confusing task.

    An absolute mystery!

    Personally, I’ve always considered myself a turtle and a late bloomer.

    This is my first blog entry, and in this article, I want to introduce myself and give you a little background with the hopes it inspires you—no matter who you are and what you’re interested in—and lets you know it’s never too late to begin doing what you love. Whether you are twenty-five, forty-five, or sixty-five, you can always start over.

    I am a literature lover, a word and grammar nerd, a writer, a self-published poet, an artist, and a freethinking individual who is passionate about helping others and making a positive impact.

    My professional life has definitely been a diverse one. I’ve tried many different things and worked in various fields in both blue-collar and white-collar sectors. Coming from an immigrant family and having relocated frequently in search of my place in the world surely has a lot to do with it.

    Starting out in college, I wasn’t sure what exactly I wanted out of life. I could have pursued, for example, linguistics, philology, literature, jewelry design and repair, engineering, or something along those lines.

    But I didn’t.  

    Honestly, none of those subjects even crossed my mind.

    At eighteen, who really knows anything about living, what it’s all about, or what they want out of it? At that age, not very many of us do.

    I didn’t.

    Yet, we are all expected to go to college right away, pick a major, decide what we want to do with the rest of our lives, and stick to it.

    Crazy!

    There are exceptions, of course, but the majority of us have no idea what is going on when we are eighteen or even when we are well into our twenties.

    I think most of you can agree.

    The road to self-discovery gets even more complicated and mysterious when you are a diverse individual with numerous interests, like I am. I think that when we are in our twenties, most of us are just overwhelmed with the many shades of life and with discovering the real world.

    Very few of us are financially stable or headed in the direction of becoming financially stable.

    Most of us don’t even really know where we are headed during those years.

    Funny enough, when we begin to mature and gather experience—when we start becoming solid adults—we understand we’ve known who we are the whole time, and things start making sense little by little.

    That’s when we begin solving the mystery of self-discovery.

    Growing up, I loved reading, writing, and art. I was always in art competitions and, with the risk of tooting my own horn here, even won some of them. I also read and wrote a lot.

    Later on, when I started attending college, my English professor constantly encouraged me to pursue writing and recommended I consider taking advanced English courses.

    During that time, however, I was too caught up in being a young adult and in exploring my numerous interests.

    Yes, I was always making bead necklaces and bracelets, writing, or reading, but trying to turn these things into a profession never even came to mind at the time. I saw them as hobbies.

    To top to off, I worked at a jewelry store with on-site bench jewelers. I loved my job, but pursuing my inclination for jewelry design and repair further never crossed my mind.

    I really had no idea what I wanted to pursue a career in.

    After leaving my major as undecided for the first two years of college, I began changing it and taking classes in different fields of interest.

    I started with psychology and then moved to art, 3-D art, art history, interior design, and early childhood education.

    It took me a total of six years to graduate, and I finished with a Bachelor’s Degree in Child and Family Development. It felt right.

    There were also some sociology, and anthropology classes involved in the process.

    After I graduated and completed my internship at the Georgia Southern University Child Development Center in Statesboro, GA, I taught preschool in Atlanta, more specifically Duluth, for a couple of years.

    Then I moved on to other things (and other cities and later on, another state) and started taking different jobs in areas like communications, project building, labor and workload organization, time management, and customer service and relations, which actually built up my skills and gave me the knowledge and tools to be able to start a business of my own.

    Meanwhile, I self-published two books of poetic expression—Lyrics of the Soul: A Warrior’s Journey and Lyrics of the Soul: Heartbeat.

    Eventually, I stumbled on a proofreading course, and because I’m a writer before anything else, it led me to think about writing for others as well.

    I started out by offering writing and editing services (check out my tips and resources if you’re interested in the process or are a wordsmith yourself) and later on opened an Etsy shop for my handmade jewelry. 

    I kept my business open for three years (2020–2023), and while I’m not in it any longer—I honestly found writing for others and reading literature I wasn’t necessarily into easily got boring and even annoying for me—it greatly expanded my professional skills and abilities. I even built this website all on my own back in 2020 (something I never thought I could do), which is an accomplishment I’m very proud of.

    My mid thirties is when I found myself back in Georgia doing administrative work for a great company that treated me very well. I was comfortable and enjoyed a certain level of professional satisfaction, but I can’t wholeheartedly say I felt truly fulfilled in every aspect of life. 

    Toward the end of my first year at the company, I reached a major turning point in my life.

    My masculine counterpart (now husband) came into my life in December of 2022. We married in March of 2023 and settled down in gorgeous Tennessee, where I had to dive into the daunting task of finding a new professional direction once again.

    After a while of trial and error and quite a bit of general uncertainty and frustration, my amazing husband’s impeccable perceptive and intuitive skills hinted at a direction I found very curious—Real Estate. This was something that had been repeatedly brought up in my past experiences and something I had immediately dismissed more than once.

    It’s safe to say in addition to the lack of time and funds, my disinclination to consider the venture had also stemmed from lack of true understanding or deeper knowledge on the subject matter.

    So, I figured the least I could do was educate myself on the topic. My husband was extremely encouraging, gracious, and supportive, which made all the difference along the way.

    Eventually, in October of 2024, I reached another major turning point and milestone in my life when I got my Real Estate License.

    In the world of Real Estate, things are always up in the air and nothing is ever sure or guaranteed. It’s not a field someone like me—someone needing solid ground beneath their feet—would choose to build a primary career in, and I don’t actively participate in it.

    However, as an Affiliate Broker , when others need my services or expertise, I get to be make a positive difference in their experiences by finding and referring them to an active agent in the area they live in or in their location of interest and choosing.

    I also get to have fun and to have my husband along for the adventure, which makes it that much more awesome and exciting.

    Today, while relishing in my interests, I enjoy an exciting unfolding career in manufacturing, which brings me professional security and satisfaction as well as a great sense of productivity and accomplishment at the end of every day.

    My journey and everything I have ever done make complete sense, and my attitude and general mood are quite positive. 

    My life feels natural, genuine, blissful, and meaningful. I’ve truly come to appreciate who I am and my experiences, and I have a bright point of view.

    There’s a deep sense of satisfaction present in my days, and my gratitude for life is overflowing.

    VOILÀ

    Mystery: UNCOVERED

    Findings: EXPERIENCE AND SELF-REALIZATION INTERTWINE AND ARE ONGOING

    My current world is a place where I feel I belong, but I am older, wiser, and have a much better understanding of life, which is what makes all the difference.

    My message, in short, is as follows:

    There is a reason for everything. You don’t have to have all the answers right away. It’s great if you do, but it’s ok if you don’t. Whatever it is that you love doing is waiting for you. Knowing what it is and how to go about doing it will be revealed to you if you keep your eyes, ears, and heart open.

    Never settle. Never stop looking for what’s right for you.

    It may take a while, but everything will fall into place at some point, and you’ll find what you seek. You’ll feel it in your gut, and it’ll feel right.

    When you do, don’t think twice!

    To Your Success!